Creating Balance with Dark and Light Feminine Energy

Feminine energy lies on a spectrum from dark to light. Creating balance between both our dark femininity and our light femininity is a very important part of becoming our true, authentic selves with a strong connection with our divine feminine.

We have talked about our dark feminine side in a prior blog post, but did not discuss the limits of dark femininity. Having an unhealthy boundary with our own feminine power in both our light and dark feminine sides is not any better than not embracing our femininity at all.

As mentioned in the prior blog, dark femininity unleashes traits such as

confidence

strength

power

and, sensuality

These traits are many times withheld because of societal expectations, but also for a fear that we could take it too far.

Dark femininity encompasses such a magnetic power, that too much, or taken too far, our unbalanced use of our dark feminine energy can hurt others and/ or hurt ourselves. A general example of an unhealthy relationship with our dark feminine side may be, using and abusing our power of confidence to degrade or put down others. A balance with this feminine power, would be knowing the limits of confidence and using it to be the best, and healthiest version of ourselves, while uplifting others and supporting them in unleashing their confidence.

Light feminine energy is on the other end of the energy spectrum. Light feminine energy encompasses many of the traditional traits of “femininity” and many others. Light feminine traits include..

patience

elegance

softness

quietness

forgiveness

nurturing

innocence

Our light feminine energy is commonly more accepted by society. Light feminine energy is a key part of connecting authentically with your divine feminine power. Although, just as with our dark feminine energy, one must practice the art of balance on the energy spectrum. Having an unhealthy relationship with our light feminine power, can cause one to lose their voice, they may forgive to far; and hurt themselves, they may not set boundaries, or may stay quiet in times when assertiveness is necessary for their wellbeing.

Our light feminine energy presents a patient, playful, nurturing side all the while, our dark feminine energy will help us to set our limits and boundaries and bring out our confidence.

Connect to your Dark Feminine Energy

Dark feminine energy is the connection to ones dark side; this being the shadow side of the Divine feminine.

Dark feminine energy is the side of the Divine feminine that many times is withheld because of societal expectations and ideologies. The dark feminine is unleashed through many different practices including...

1. Shadow work - This involves unravelling the unconscious aspects of ones true nature. Through journaling, therapy, and other forms of self exploration, you are able to unlock and work through repressed emotions, trauma, fears, and desire to lead to a conscious awakening of oneself.

2. Embracing sensuality - Pleasuring our physical and spiritual bodies through self love, movement, dance, yoga, and other forms of sensual and sexual pleasure. Our bodies need and deserve love in all ways.

3. Mindfulness - Awakening our senses to all that we are and what is around us, is an important part of connecting with our dark energy. Meditation, mindful eating and movement, breath work and self-reflection are activities to practice on the daily.

Traits and characteristics that are present when one is connected to their dark feminine energy...

1. Assertiveness

2. Confidence

3. Authenticity

4. Sensuality

5. Protectiveness

6. Fearlessness

7. Charisma

8. Fierceness

9. Passion

10. Seductiveness

11. Intuitive

12. Transformative

13. Regenerative

When we speak on dark feminine energy, we question the traditional ideology of what "feminine" means. As mentioned in past blogs, 'femininity', is a social construct, so when we think of dark feminine energy we can think of all the traits that are not typical of a woman in the traditional ideology of society.

Here are some other ways to connect with your dark side...

• Connect with your higher self - give yourself space and time , listen to your body and what it is yearning for.

• Spend time around dark masculine energy - with true authentic, powerful masculine energy, intertwining with your authentic true powerful feminine energy, one can feel enlightened.

• Embrace your menstrual cycle. Break the stigma around menstruation and allow this time for your body to rest, regenerate, and nourish it for the coming month.

• Give your senses the gift of nature. We are one with, and part of nature and the power that mother nature holds, is given to us for energy and life.

Unleash your 'Feminine Power'!

Our Assertive Rights

We always hear the saying that "communication is key", although we still struggle to hear others and have others hear us. Assertive Communication is not something we learn about in school and unless we go out of our way to educate ourselves on how to communicate in a healthy manner with assertiveness skills, we are really left to navigate communication through trial and error.

Here, I wanted to share your rights to assertiveness and I will talk about assertive communication skills in a further discussion.

Below are your rights. (Make note that these are YOUR rights but they are also everyone else's rights. This means, we must be accepting to others rights as well.)

YOUR BILL OF ASSERTIVE RIGHTS

1. You have the right to judge your own behaviors, thoughts and emotions, and to take responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.

2. You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior.

3. You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems.

4. You have the right to change your mind.

5. You have the right to make mistakes and be responsible for them.

6. You have the right to say “I don’t know.”

7. You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them.

8. You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.

9. You have the right to say “I don’t understand.”

10. You have the right to say “I don’t care.”

11. You have the right to say “no.”

12. You have the right to do less then you are humanly capable of doing.

13. You have the right to take the time you need to respond.

14. You have the right to disagree with others regardless of their position or numbers.

15. You have the right to feel all of your emotions (including anger) and express them appropriately.

16. You have the right to ask questions.

17. You have the right to be treated with respect.

18. You have the right to ask for what you want.

19. You have the right to feel good about yourself, your actions and your life.

20. You have the right to exercise any and all of the these rights, without feeling guilty.

When you are done reading through these, I recommend saying them out loud with "you" switched to "I". Each of these rights are an affirmation to bring you more confidence in your communication with others.

-Angelena Rose