What is Feminism?

Now before I begin,

Ide like to ask...

“Are you a Feminist”?

Many of you probably said “No, I don’t believe in all that cr*p”.

If you said “Yes, I am!", well you are already one step ahead.

Before I educated myself on feminism and finally chose to say “I am a Feminist”; This is what I believed... Feminism meant the “power for the women”, “women should run the world”; and thought to myself, “that’s a little excessive, isn’t it? Can’t we all just get along? Equality for men and women. Not only that but at some times in my life actually believed that men should just run the world… that’s how its always been done and we’re all here today, aren’t we? They are the superior race, women couldn't be close in excellence. It would be nice to just have a “real man” tell me what to do, and I can just do what a woman does... you know? be cute? and those people who think women are better are wrong.

But that idea of feminism and what society had made feminism look like, was all WRONG….

By definition, Feminism is…

 “The advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.”

Hm..

Sounds a lot like Equality, does it not?

Feminism is NOT, “women should push men out of their roles, and take over the world”. Feminism is NOT, “Women naturally can be just as muscular and strong as men.”

Feminism is NOT, “Women should be the breadwinners and men should stay home and tend to the house and children”.

 Feminism is the ideology that women are just as capable and have their own unique sets of skills that aren’t being used to their maximum power.

If I haven’t caught your attention yet, you most likely just rolled your eyes and said, “Oh, another one of those radical feminist ladies who thinks they can do what men can do, but its not even physically possible”.

Your right, my friend.

But read this again “Women have their own unique sets of skills and abilities”.

Men are born naturally with their own sets of advanced qualities and abilities.

Women are born naturally with their own sets of advanced qualities and abilities.

Feminism is not about taking away from the man, but rather it is supporting the women in achieving their highest power. Supporting them in using their natural born qualities, abilities and femininity to be just as capable.

Women have a power that society does not help develop; a power that makes a woman unstoppable, a power that gives them strength and confidence and independence. Feminism is the ideology that brings women and men together to support women in acknowledging and unleashing that power. Feminism is telling women THEY CAN, not telling them they are incapable. It is supporting confidence and strength, while also not expecting them to achieve the same level of excellence in a strength, in which men are naturally going to excel further in.

Feminism is Lifting woman up.

A feminist would say, “You are capable, you are feminine and you CAN”!

Now I will ask again.. “Are you a Feminist?”

-          Angelena Rose

Accountability is Empowering

First of all, what does accountability mean? Accountability is the act of taking responsibility. It sounds a little strange that taking responsibility could be empowering, when empowering is such a big word with a powerful meaning!

But I am going to metaphorically explain my proposition before talking more facts..

Who here has ever told a lie?

(Your answer is probably "I have")

How does it feel to tell a lie?

Who here has ever told the honest truth?

(Your answer is also probably "I have")

How does it feel to tell the truth?

Now when we tell a lie, it USUALLY seems like the best option at the time (for the most part). This goes, not only for telling others lies but also lying to ourselves (lack of accountability).

Now when we tell the truth, it can be extremely terrifying and cause a lot of anxiety to have to tell the truth... (this sounds awful).

When we lie, it's instant gratification... BUT, each time we lie, we throw a small pebble (for small lies) or a big pebble (for big lies) into the backpack that we carry around all day...

These pebbles are in the form of "what if they find out", "was that the right thing to do", "what would've happened if I told the truth?", **stomach butterflies*, **anxiety, *overthinking- and so on...

The truth is as simple as delayed gratification, before the truth is told, we are scared, dwindled with anxiety, as soon as we get the truth out, instant relief and guess what? No pebbles in your backpack...

Imagine waking up every morning free of weight in your backpack, being able to go to work, or care for yourself with no lingering "what if they find out".

When I say that accountability is empowering, I mean that when you speak honestly with yourself and the world around you, you get to live your life with no weight in your backpack, when we speak the truth and only the truth to ourselves and others, there is no long term anxiety, or questioning..

When we take accountability for our own actions and see that what we do and what we say is what causes our inner conflict and not the actions and words of others, we choose peace of mind, discipline and control.

When we choose to speak the truth, when we speak kind words, passionate words, we choose serenity.

Hold yourself accountable and feel empowered!

~ Angelena Cordonier

2024-02-08

The Power of Femininity

Femininity has been a very controversial term over the years with the rise of feminism. There is a great stigma around femininity and the idea of it! With the rise of feminism, and the lack of education on its true meaning, femininity has been seen as a sign of weakness.

And weakness is the absolute opposite of what femininity is!

The definition of "femininity" is "The true nature of the female; attributes, characteristics, behaviours, roles."

Best news you will hear all day, is that femininity is a social construct; meaning that as a society, we decide what those attributes, characteristics, behaviours and roles are!

So picture this, all the females in the world come together to decide what femininity should look like!

Do you think that we would determine femininity to be "weak", "quiet", "uninteresting"?

I don't think so...

Left up to me, femininity would mean, "strong", "beautiful", "intelligent", "gentle", "confident", and so much more and I think you would agree?

You get to decide what femininity looks like to you, and because you are a "female" your greatest advantage in life will be your femininity- however you want that to look!

Together, as women, as a society, we must define femininity for ourselves and use it to our greatest advantage.